Abuse and Bullying In our Religion. Part 1

I will be addressing abuse including Sexual Abuse within our community in a three part blog. Here is Part 1: The other day, Oludare,  Esteemed Olorisha of Ogun, Musician and Teacher, made a statement about an Olorisha who had abused him in the context of a tambor that he had attended as drummer. Consequentially it brought up many conversations, outrage and responses and other people standing up and saying it had happened to them too. This is my take on abuse in our community. As someone that has been a Survivor of Abuse, not only Violent Rape, but Covert, insidious,…

Why Black Lives Matter.

With so much going on in the world over the last couple of months, it has been hard to keep up with what I feel I should be writing about. What I have noticed, however, is that, like many things regarding social media, hashtag culture does not last for ever.  I believe that in my role as Iyalorisha, it is as important to use my platform to educate in all matters of life, in addition to inform those coming to my page regarding all things Orisha. So today I am focusing on  four projects that I feel are worthwhile to…

Ibae L’Aye T’Orun Oshainle.

2020 will be a most memorable year. In the Midst of the Lockdown and pandemic, the protests and the movement demanding change sparked by the public execution of George Floyd , my Iyatobi, went to join the ancestors at the feet of Olodumare. I am forever grateful to Obatala for putting her in my path. I will never forget the day I made Ocha and all the wonderful experienced that I had with her. It has been a very emotional time. My love goes out to all who are related to her via blood and stone. 2020 será un año…

My Response To The Here and Now. Negotiating a mixed Ile.

I feel that it is necessary for me to post at this time of unrest and justified anger, in response to the murder of George Floyd. First of all I have to say that just as I believe that the personal is political, I believe that there is power in this Spiritual Tradition, and as a Mentor and Iyalorisha  of Oshun, I see my role as a medium to enable all those that choose me to be their Spiritual Mentor  to align  with their destinies. I am here to use what I know to empower my Godchildren.  However, as time…

Educational resources for adults. Part 2

      Let us be honest. No amount of  books and online resources are a replacement for practising this spiritual path with guidance from elders and real human contact. It is a community religion and it is not meant to be practised as a solitary practitioner. What you can learn these days on line is the background to our practise and there are excellent community pages where you can have your questions answered by trustworthy and knowledgeable practitioners.  I have always been quite critical of the online world, however, there have been excellent resources and and trustworthy practitioners sharing…

Education during these unusual times. Part 1: Children

In many places now internationally, the majority of children are at home. Some children are having to attend online classes, others are having work sent to them. All in all, it can be an opportunity to be more adventurous with children’s education. Personally, it has been a time for learning with my granddaughter, in some aspects like growing vegetables, and foraging. There are also Spiritual aspects of my life that I am able now to share with her, such as learning more about our rituals and also beading which I am enjoying teaching,  but there are also amazing online opportunities…

Contemplations on living in the times of a Pandemic.

I had a trip to Cuba planned for a month. I was supposed to be initiating my Goddaughter to Ogun. My Iyawo Oya was finishing his year. My Iyawo Obatala was supposed to be doing his Ebo Meta. Such a lot of preparation and logistics from me and saving and sacrifice from them.  Just over a week ago, I had my bags packed to fly to Cuba despite the uncertainties of the news. My flight was not cancelled and Cuba’s borders were still open.  Just over two weeks ago there were no cases in Cuba and I was looking forward…

Listen when your hear the bells ringing!

This blog is appealing to your better judgement. Learn to listen to yourselves.  Listen to the Bells! Warning signs of unhealthy spiritual relationships. ( which are really the same as any relationship that requires human interaction) If you feel bullied, unhappy, humiliated or attacked in any way, walk away.  You are under no obligation to stay in abusive relationships. Do not be blinded by so called mentors who sell themselves as all knowing, all powerful, almost guru like, sometimes offering miracle cures and unrealistic solutions. Be careful with those who have an over zealous social media profiles. Those that are…

Thought of the Day. Be careful what you wish for.

It is not what you want, but what you need, and what happens to be part of your destiny as you walk this journey. We choose our destiny before we are born into this world. We then forget, and spend our lives trying to work it out. We are lucky on this path, to have the tools of divination which reminds us where we are and how to realign ourselves with our destiny.  Not everyone will have an easy path, and no two people are the same. Be careful not to envy the journey of others. You don’t know where…

Lineage, Initiation, entitlement and appropriation: Part 2

As we come to the end of the decade, I am reflecting on some of the personalities that have crossed my path. One of the most disturbing trend I have found is the general  idea that Orisha are universal energies open for all too manipulate. This has led to many people building altars, selling produce,  creating rituals and also filming it for all to see. So there are a lot of  misguided individuals who think they have the entitlement to work with Orisha or the equivalent in other ATR religions, when they have no idea what they are doing. Then…